Moving on is not something that
can be done overnight. It’s a phase that
starts with a choice: a decision to do
so. For some people, it takes a shorter
time, for some it takes a longer period.
Usually, the most heartbreaking
sight is seeing the other person move on sooner than you. This is because even if you
still want to fight and do everything to make the relationship work… against
your will, you were compelled to give up.
The reason why seeing someone move on hurts so bad is usually because of two things:
(1) It makes one feel that he or she was left behind
(2) It makes one question his/her worth, because the other one opted to give up, instead of doing everything to make a relationship work.
So for those of you who are on the brink
of "letting go" and "moving on", if you never shared a
strong bond with the other person, I'm not going to stop you. Go ahead.
Let go and move on. I would even suggest you do it now. But
if the person means so much to you or if at some point in your life that person
was very close to you, think twice, thrice, four times... reflect on it
everyday. Especially if the other person is doing everything to make the
relationship work. You may not have to be together again as lovers but that doesn't mean you can't be good friends.
And oh, by the way, in doing any of what I
suggested, have a heart to heart talk with the person first: a heart to heart
talk that is completely absent of any pretensions (this is usually the process
missed in moving on and letting go). Say what you really felt and currently
feeling. Share your fears and yes... reveal your vulnerability (after
all, you've shown your "strong" side probably for a long time
already)
And yes of course, pray.
