Why Moving On Sometimes Hurt

Moving on is not something that can be done overnight.  It’s a phase that starts with a choice:  a decision to do so.  For some people, it takes a shorter time, for some it takes a longer period.   

Usually, the most heartbreaking sight is seeing the other person move on sooner than you.  This is because even if you still want to fight and do everything to make the relationship work… against your will, you were  compelled to give up.  

The reason why seeing someone move on hurts so bad is usually because of two things:

(1) It makes one feel that he or she was left behind

(2) It makes one question his/her worth, because the other one opted to give up, instead of doing everything to make a relationship work. 

So for those of you who are on the brink of "letting go" and "moving on", if you never shared a strong bond with the other person, I'm not going to stop you.  Go ahead.  Let go and move on.  I would even suggest you do it now.  But if the person means so much to you or if at some point in your life that person was very close to you, think twice, thrice, four times... reflect on it everyday.  Especially if the other person is doing everything to make the relationship work.  You may not have to be together again as lovers but that doesn't mean you can't be good friends.

And oh, by the way, in doing any of what I suggested, have a heart to heart talk with the person first: a heart to heart talk that is completely absent of any pretensions (this is usually the process missed in moving on and letting go).  Say what you really felt and currently feeling.  Share your fears and yes... reveal your vulnerability (after all, you've shown your "strong" side probably for a long time already)

And yes of course, pray.