Safe Player vs. Cautious Risk Taker

I could still remember a few years back, I can’t imagine where I would be at the age of 31.  All I know is that five years ago, three years ago, my mind was always clouded with worries.  I was so scared of a lot of things:  making mistakes, being blamed, getting hurt and crying all over again… those usual things associated with failure. 

Failure is a fact of life that I perceived to be as something that would weaken me.  So each time I sense its threat, it became a natural instinct for me to protect myself from the pain it might inflict. No matter how promising the rewards are on the other side, I step back and turn around at the sight of a singular uncertainty.  

Ideas may run through my mind, but I would stick to the dictates of books out of fear that I may do something wrong.   Little did I know that I would barely reap anything from that approach…. there will always be something inside me that clamors in attempt to break free.  And before I know it, I found myself bored with the repetitive nature of playing safe.  Hence, I made that first step and braved those horizons beyond my comfort zones.  I started taking risks, and boy did I do so!

In taking those risks, I realized that I was right all along:  In some of those times, I made mistakes… I got blamed… I got hurt… and yes I cried a lot… just like how I anticipated it.  You see, that’s the thing about taking risks, there will never ever be anything certain about it.   But taking risks will not always drag you to dystopia… some will actually lift you to that euphoric bliss.

Those mistakes you incur from taking risks will not pin you to your downfall.  You don’t fail in life because of those mistakes.  You fail because you decide not to try all over again.  A lot of things in our lives are cycles of trials and errors.  For most of us, we immediately stop at the first loop of error that’s why we never find out how to do things right.

Stop nursing your battle scars as if they’re still fresh wounds.  Shrug off the past and try all over again.  

Go ahead and take those risks like they're vitamins... be that cautious risk taker.  You owe it to yourself. J

We all fear change.  Often times, we would rather settle in a stagnant state amidst the meager benefits we reap out from doing so.  But fate will always find a way to drag us out of our comfort zones, with a pure intent of placing us in a much better situation. 

These too shall pass...

One thing I realized, no matter how serious a problem is, in time it will be over.  And in the end what really matters is that you stand up from that fall, and continue with your journey.  Life will go on no matter what happens.  

Reconnections

In most cases, you don’t exactly have to omit a person in your life.  You just have to let go of those negative feelings that your heart associate with that person.  Yes, sometimes, it may require the need to create a distance with the other just so you can find time to reflect on everything that happened.  

But time will come, you will find yourself thinking and longing for the company of that person.  When that happens, go ahead and reach out… and let go of the fear that something wrong will happen again this time around.  Who knows, that person was just waiting for you. :)J

Lost and Gained

For every heart break, you may lose the one you have loved, but you will gain lessons that will lead you to the one who will also love you in return. :)

On Loving and Improving Yourself

Loving usually comes with pain. Either your heart gets broken or you break someone’s heart.  But nothing good will come out should you hold grudges against the opposite sex…  in doing so, it would lead you to your own downfall.  Doing so would thwart you from realizing what is wrong with you.

Whether you’re a girl who started to hate guys or whether you’re a guy who started to despise girls, maybe it’s time to reflect.  Because most likely, if that’s your way of thinking… the problem is with you.   The moment you despise the opposite sex, you’re starting to lose one of the most important things in relationships:  respect.  And besides, how can love come into your life if your heart is filled with hatred and bitterness?

When relationships fail, both parties are at fault.  It’s useless to blame the other solely.  You have your own faults.  And as long as you don’t recognize your own faults, there’s a bigger possibility for the relationships you get into to fail.

Love is a give and take relationship.  Rather than nitpicking and making sure that your prospect is the perfect match for you, try looking into how you can improve yourself to be a good match for that person.  Rather than demanding... inspire.  Change yourself… for the better.  Rather than compelling others to change, it’s better to improve yourself first.  It’s for your own personal development . J

Happy Valentine’s Day Everyone!  Fill your hearts with love, it can make a big difference in your life. J