How to Treat A Woman

I read this from somewhere and thought of sharing it with you...

"You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters?

She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold ...onto her and give her the most you can.

She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give.

Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there."

True Form of Love

“Love should prevail among all things, that’s what they say.

But in most failed relationships, love may have been there at first, but it faded with time… fear prevailed… pride prevailed.

People fail to give love a chance out of fear of getting hurt or hurting someone. But come to think of it, the choice of not falling in love also brings the possibility of someone getting hurt.

Why fear getting hurt? The pain is a reminder that loving is a sacrifice. Granted that at some point it may bring us pain… granted at some point love will stab our hearts with devastation and grief; only if we find courage to give it a chance, the same love will ignite our dying feelings and rekindle it with ultimate bliss.

Silence, to some extent, is the voice of pride. We choose not to say things assuming that our feelings are not mutually shared. We choose not to say anything at all. We always expect something in return, that when there’s a risk of leaving empty handed, we give up the fight altogether. It’s like wanting to win the lottery, but opting not to bet because the chance is slim.

Loving someone is a risk worth taking. We may not be loved back, at least we made that someone feel loved.

It’s quite sad how loving someone is seen as a weakness… It’s quite unfortunate how some people see falling in love as vulnerability. Love is one of the most powerful emotions that a human being can experience.

Love is not a weakness.

Love overcomes the fear of getting hurt. It is courage.

Love accepts and continues loving even if the feelings are not mutual. It is humility.

Love is not vulnerability. Love is strength.

Chains

It’s so hard to express what you feel when you think that some things are better off unrevealed… unspoken words are chains that bind us. And from these chains, sometimes it's so hard to break free...

It is only when we free ourselves from these chains... only then that we can say that freedom is in our hands.

Question Mark

I wonder what's in store for me tomorrow, the next day, next week, next month, next year... We never know what the future holds. All I know is that we always have to prepare ourselves. No one can stop time. Tomorrow is inevitable. Even if we cherish all things happening now, there would still be a risk that they will end at one point. Every single day, we come across people: some become our friends, others remain strangers. They come into our lives for a reason, a reason that unravels itself at the right time. Occasionally, we find ourselves facing circumstances that test our stability... circumstances that shake our grounds... circumstances that attempt to pull us down... I guess they're right when they said that shit happens. It's so hard not to be worried about the future. But come to think of it: each day offers a unique gift to all of us... so why fret?

The longer you stay down on your fall...

I fell down the stairs a while ago... it was a nasty fall.

But then, after that fall, I told myself that I had to stand up. I mean, the longer I stayed there on the floor, the longer I would look stupid... Just like in living this life. ;-p

More Than That

I’m not exactly a cynical lover. Don’t get it all mixed up. Though I would stick to my stand that not all love stories end in happily-ever-after, but that doesn’t mean we’re all doomed to drown in despondence.

I still believe that someday, somewhere, I will be led to that crossroad where I and my soul mate will meet and there would be an instant connection. No, not exactly love at first sight, but there will still be a connection. We’ll share similar interests, giving us the opportunity to connect deeper. And at the same time, we’ll find ourselves seeing through our differences... We’ll fall in love.

Right now, I don’t know who he is… when, where or how we will meet. But I’m confident that I will meet him. I choose not to lose hope.

The feeling of loving and being loved are the greatest gifts we could give to ourselves. So why should I deprive myself? ;-p

Loving is not weakness. To love is to embrace the most powerful force that one can experience. And we will all succumb to that force… amidst our clamor to resist.

Sad Reality

It’s quite unfortunate that love, no matter how precious, is drowned in the negativities brought about by fear, pride and indifference. And alas, most of us let it happen.

Rejection is what we usually fear and we sacrifice the love that we could give just to nurse that fear. Out of pride, most people keep their feelings to themselves, depriving them the chance to discover how capable they are of loving a special someone.

But can we blame them? I think not.

We have come into that generation, where falling in love is almost a twin of heartbreak. More and more people find themselves getting hurt as they enter commitments. And for some, they are led to bitter endings.

Although feelings may fade, the memories linger: the memories of broken trusts… the memories of burning passion cooling off… the memories of being left behind… And sometimes, I can’t help not to ask… was it really love that took place?

Love, at its ultimate form, is one of the most powerful weapons. It ignites passion. It strengthens bonds. It can heal painful memories. If only we allow ourselves to experience that ultimate form, love will surpass all negativities.

When Change Becomes Too Much

I’ve witnessed how people change as their hearts break. They learn to take control and tame their strong emotions. But then, before they realize it… they morph into cold stoic creatures, with dense and almost frozen hearts.

To Make a Difference

People may come and go but as long as you made a difference in their lives, you will always be remembered. And no matter what, they will try to reconnect just to keep in touch with you.

Everytime you make someone feel special, you become special to them as well.

Exhausted

I’m tired. I’ve reached my limit...

Sometimes, it’s useless to hold on especially if you don’t have the strength to do so.

After all, even the Lord rested on the Sabbath… so who are we to exhaust ourselves?

The New February

Is Cupid rendering overtime? A lot of people seems to be lovestruck... kahit mga single kong friends... pasenti!

Since September, my friends would say, September is the new February. October came and they said the same thing. Lo and behold it's already December but nevertheless, the month wasn't spared from being tagged as the new February. February is a month with merely 28 days... 29 at most... how come the "new February" lasted for a trimester? Lolz.

After 8 years of celebrating Christmas with a special someone, I'm gonna celebrate it again being single this year. Am I lonely? Surprisingly, No. Probably because I know that no matter what, I'm still gonna celebrate it with the people who love me the most... my parents and my kids. This year was also more meaningful cause I found time catching up with friends. I likewise took the courage to widen my circle... sigh, all I can say now is that I should have done it sooner.

I love this feeling. I'm so grateful with the sense of security that my friends and family impart. I still feel so much loved that even if I don't have a special someone right now, the feeling of being in love remains in my heart.

Ye, in a way my friends are right... we can make everyday a Valentine's Day.

By the way, don't get me wrong. I know that Single Blessedness ain't my calling.

I'm not in a hurry, though. I'm taking my precious time... cherishing every single moment as I enjoy the perks of being single...then collecting, selecting, discarding (ahahahaha)... basta I'm enjoying... cause I know that in time, Cupid will no longer have to shoot me with his arrow, cause love is already overflowing in my heart... and it's just waiting to be shared with the right someone.



"But love is always new. Regardless of whether we love once, twice, or a dozen times in our life, we always face a brand-new situation."

Paulo Coelho, By The River Piedra I Sat Down And Wept

Intimidated?

WHATEVER!

To hell with your inhibitions!

Besides, you'll reap nothing from them.

The Bitter Truth

Some people may seem to be strong: resilient and unaffected by the bruises that life has inflicted to them.

But sometimes, in silence, they still weep... though they opt not to show the tears that trickle down their cheeks. And from time to time, they ask themselves, until when can they hold the smiles that are weakly held by their shaking hearts?

Pandora's Box

PS. I Love You (A Letter For My Children)

My children, when you tell me that I don’t understand you… I actually understand. I’ve been a child myself once so I know how you feel. At your age, it is you who may not completely understand me. But don’t worry, time will come you will understand life the way I understood it.


Your education is probably the most expensive legacy that I could provide. Finish it no matter what. I may not be able to give you cars, but through your education, you’ll be able to find work and in time get a car of your own. I may not be able to give you your own house, or your own condo unit… but I’ll try to teach you how to make a home.

I’m sorry if every once in a while I get upset. I’m sorry if some of my words make you cry. Without you knowing, it breaks my heart when I hurt your feelings. But my children, sometimes, I have to hurt your feelings and make you strong than let you suffer in the end and get hurt by your own mistakes.

When I worry about you, it’s not because I don’t trust you. Trust me:, I trust you so much. It’s just that I care for you so much. Remember how you freaked out when I almost threw your stick drawings because you treasured them so much? You told me that they were your masterpiece… my children, you are my masterpiece.

As you grow up, do not stop dreaming. Continue aspiring. I will always be there to support you. Feel free to share them to me so we can dream and plan together.

Do not be too hard on yourself when you fail. Don’t give up. If you need help, always remember I’m at your side. I may not know everything, but I’m willing to learn them so that I could help you. If I’m not capable of learning it, I will cheer you until the end. I will cheer you and scream the loudest when you win. If at some point you still lose, I will still be your number one fan.

Some people may do you wrong. Even before they ask for an apology, learn to forgive them already. As long as you don’t, you will walk this earth with a heavy heart. As long as you don’t forgive, you’ll never find peace. And it will be hard for you to trust: to trust others and even to trust yourself. Learn to forgive so that you could move on and start anew.

Treat your friends like they’re your brothers and sisters. Feel free to introduce them to me. Let’s make our home their second home. I’ll even cook for them on weekends when they visit. I’ll be like a mom to them. We can even have a movie night at home during some weekends.

No matter how much you work for all things, learn to accept that you don’t get everything that you want. But time will come you’ll realize it’s for your own sake. In God’s time, He will enlighten you with the reason. Granted that you don’t get everything you want, that’s because God has better plans for you.

Finally, at the right time, fall in love, my children. Inspire and be inspired. After all, love, aside from life itself, is the best gift bestowed upon us. Treasure this gift. Cherish the bliss that this experience imparts. Always remember to love with all your heart. I know that doing so will put you to the risk of heartbreak. But that’s the true form of loving. And when that time comes when someone makes you cry, I’ll be there by your side and cry with you. I’ll cry with you until you find that someone who will also love you with all their heart. Believe me, my children; there is someone out there who will love you wholeheartedly. I loved with all my heart, and you, my children, are the fruits.

Hahahaha! It's funny how I say these things now in a different perspective. T'was just like yesterday, I was whining about the same things to your grandparents.

My children, as a person, I still have a lot to learn. I’m sorry if my shortcomings have affected how I raised you one way or another… for the meantime, please accept my unconditional love to make up for it.